of Honor Speeches
A Guide to Wedding Speeches
A Maid of Honor is often a sister, sometimes a best
friend, and usually asked to speak at the wedding.
The good news: being a sister or best friend makes
this kind of speech easy! Really, all these speeches
do is talk about the great qualities of the bride and her
relationship with the groom. Still, it can be a bit
intimidating, so here are some pointers:
Brainstorm - Start off by
thinking about stories about the bride. How do
you know each other? What memories bring a smile
to your face? What do you know about the groom,
how they met, what their relationship is like?
If you could put together a "guide for marrying
my friend/sister," how would it go? Get all
this stuff down on paper, then run it by some people,
and see what they like. One more thing; the Best
Man certainly won't mention the bachelor party.
It's probably best not to mention its
Balance - Now that you've got
some good stories for entertainment value, make sure
that you've balanced the speech out with some good
mushy stuff. Remember, the audience for this
speech includes some older folks who'd just like to
hear a pleasant speech that'll make them say "oh
my, wasn't that nice?" You need to make
sure those people are taken care of! It's best
to start with the funny stuff, then transition to the
Remember the Requirements - As
with all speeches at a wedding, the Maid of Honor
speech should end with a toast. Toasts can be
tough! There's a lot of pressure to be not only
eloquent, but to be deep and sufficiently
concise. Don't be afraid to go through drafts -
speak from the heart! This is the capper for
your speech. Be sweet, and genuine - don't try
too hard to write something complicated and
verbose. Just feel it.
Be Loose! - Nobody wants a
rigid speech here; it should be as heartfelt and
genuine as possible. Instead of actually writing
this speech out word-for-word, just write general
bullet points to guide you - that way the words will
come naturally, and you won't just be reading it from
a card. Don't be afraid of getting
"emotional" - tears can be very endearing,
and are often contagious in the best ways.
Relax, and smile - these are all your friends!
They love you. And they're probably already
Hopefully now you're ready to wow'em at the wedding.
I don't have any examples of Maid of Honor speeches
(sorry!), but I do have a sample
Best Man speech on this site. Check
it out, and think about overall tones - they're pretty
much the same for any wedding speech. Good luck!